With the new show 13 Reasons Why that came out I thought it appropriate to make a blog post about suicide. Don’t worry I’m not going to do a post about how suicide is the answer, which after watching that show it seems to suggest that suicide is. Quite the contrary, this post is four reasons why I think suicide is NEVER the answer. (There are plenty more these are just the four I’m saying).
Please don’t get me wrong with this, I know how hard life can get sometimes; believe me I know but suicide isn’t the answer and honestly I’m a little appalled at how that show points to suicide as if it is. So here goes…
- Things always get better. I had a very hard upbringing. I grew up in a broken home, I was bullied relentlessly in school, I was kicked out of multiple homes, and I’ll be honest I thought about suicide for a while when I was a teenager. I just couldn’t see my life getting better. I couldn’t see a light at the end of the tunnel. Now, years later, my life is great. It’s not great because I make a ton of money or live in a huge house. My life is great because I’m happy. I found the love of my life. I live modestly and I found my passion and love for life through art. I couldn’t see this years ago but I would hate to think, if i had ended it all, that I wouldn’t be here now to enjoy this. You just have to wait. It doesn’t happen right away. It took almost 8 years for me to get here but I promise you it will get better.
- Suicide is not what you think it is. I think people look at suicide as a peaceful solution. It’s the common belief that the world would be better off without you but I am here to say that isn’t true. Suicide isn’t peaceful. I was 16 when I found my brother surrounded by pill bottles. Thankfully he got to the hospital in time but that experience, for any of those involved, was not peaceful. It’s terrifying and ugly and heart wrenching. The world would not be better off without you. You matter even if it feels like you don’t. I don’t know your story and I don’t know what you’re going through but I can tell you that you matter. Suicide won’t erase any of your pain and torment, it just causes others to feel the pain you feel.
- There’s more of the world to see. How can you think you hate the world and all those in it so much that you would kill yourself to get away but you haven’t even seen all the world? There is so much more to see and so much more to do. Have you seen the sunset against the ocean? Have you seen the way the world looks so small from the top of the mountain? When was the last time you looked up at the stars and marveled at the wonders of the universe? You have more time to see the world and explore. You just have to keep going. The world is 1000 times more beautiful than it is ugly but you have to be around to see it.
- You can change your life. Maybe the reason you’re considering suicide is you aren’t happy with your life. Maybe you’ve gotten a divorce. Maybe you’ve lost a loved one. Maybe you feel alone. Maybe you don’t like your school. I don’t know but what I do know is you can change it. That’s easier said than done I know but it’s true. You can change everything right now. You can follow your dreams, however impossible they may seem. Chase them and don’t let anyone stop you. Stop caring about people who don’t care about you. Surround yourself with people who love you and want you to succeed and even if you have to go at it alone, do it. Find the life the makes you happy. Be the person you’ve always wanted to be. If you don’t like who you are then change it.
Suicide isn’t a solution. If you are considering it please talk to someone. There is so much more for you in this life. There’s so much more to see and do. You will find your place in this world eventually. Just give it time. In the meantime, be patient and find your way. Be kind to others, even those who aren’t kind to you. You never know what anyone is going through.